Every Wednesday, I’ll (try) to post up a Simple Living Tip, with an emphasis on tips that can be done while living a more traditional 9-to-5 life.
It just occurred to me that my simple living tips tend to work better for introverts simply because I am one. However, even I struggle with my own advice at times. For example, an easy suggestion is to just say “no” to social invites. Yet, sometimes I feel too isolated and this would definitely not work for extroverts or anyone who just loves a full social calendar.
A woman I know seems to have family gatherings every other weekend and it’s obvious stressful for her. My normal advice would be to pick and choose events if she needs downtime. However, this probably won’t work for many reasons. Family events are not something she can easily avoid, her children might spill the beans by accident, and she is somewhat of a social butterfly. So I thought I would give dual advices for different situations:
1) Too many social engagements
Advice for introverts: Pick and choose, only go to those that are really important to you and decline the rest. You don’t have to go to every wedding or kid birthday party. Lie if you have to (i.e. migraines, colds, allergies, bad back etc..)
Advice for extroverts: There’s not much you can do here. Just go to every event but try to keep things simple in other areas (i.e. have a standard dish you bring to every potluck or sign up to bring drinks or paper plates)
2) Too many gifts to buy
Advice for introverts: Even if you decline most invitations, you may still have to send a gift. Either come up with a stash of good hostess / host gifts that many people will enjoy or embrace a reputation as a so-so gift giver. If you do come up with the occasional “perfect” gift, all the better ! You can also opt out of gift exchanges altogether or do the “draw a name” approach, which works well for larger families.
Advice for extroverts: Most likely, you enjoy getting and receiving good gifts. I would recommend buying an item immediately if you think of someone who might love it. It may seem strange to buy a birthday gift for someone months ahead of time but trust me, when that special occasion arrives, you’ll be happy that you’re NOT scrambling to find a good gift. Other possible simple life suggestion: Don’t wrap. Put everything in a nice paper gift bag.
3) Too much Social Networking
Advice for introverts: Opt out.
Advice for extroverts: Can’t stand the thought of not knowing where your friends and family are or what they’re doing? Keep your Facebook account but try checking in and updating less often.
4) Too Many Hobbies
Advice for introverts: Pick one, probably something like reading, gardening or yoga to re-connect with self.
Advice for extroverts: Pick one or two activities that combine your interests with social interaction. Take a class with your spouse. Exercise with your best buddies.
5) Too Much To Do For Wedding (or Event Planning)
Advice for introverts: Elope. Don’t plan anything. If you do want to have a wedding, see below advice for extroverts.
Advice for extroverts: Weddings deserve its own post but for now I’ll give some hints: Delegate, It’s no big deal, no one will remember the flower centerpiece.
If you’re extroverted but want to keep it simple, how do you manage? Is Simple Living more difficult for extroverts?