Recently, I was having dinner with my parents and a sibling. During the conversation, it became painfully clear to me that we had nothing in common. This wasn’t the big revelation though. We’ve drifted apart long ago and are not close though we’re certainly cordial. For years, our small talk have been awkward and impersonal. What struck me was the realization that I can’t make this person laugh at anything I say. The most response I get for any jokes / funny comments is a soft, forced smile or a tepid laugh. In contrast, I’ve been getting to know a co-worker and she bursts out laughing at a lot of my comments, and I can also make my co-workers laugh on a regular basis.
It’s strange when someone you grew up with and know all your life becomes just another person, more like a complete stranger I was forced to sit next to at a friend’s dinner party.
I realize that the wistful tone of this post might result in advice on rebuilding this relationship. I have no interest in doing so as this sibling annoys me on a regular basis and I’m more than happy to keep my distance.