My husband and I were discussing the idea of hosting a party and the subject of guest list came up. Depending on the size of the party, our guest list would vary. The interesting thing that stuck out in my mind was that if the party was large enough, we would easily have 4-5 black guests (African-American..what is correct to say right now?). If we narrowed the list to 8 people, 2 would still be black/African-American. The reason this stuck out in my mind is that it seems most people hang out with people of their own race. When we go to parties with our white or Asian friends, most of the guests come from those 2 groups with the majority being white either way. There might be a few Hispanics and maybe 1 black (if that!), and this person is usually a hipster type with a non-black significant other. Or think of TV shows like “Friends” and “How I Met Your Mother”, where interactions are almost always with white people even though these shows take place in ethnically-diverse New York City.
All my life, most of my friends have been mostly Asian or white, the predominant culture that I grew up with, and my husband is white. The other race I’m most comfortable with has been Hispanic, since I grew up with Hispanics as well. I can easily count 4 Hispanics who were/are good friends and one woman I consider my BFF is Hispanic.
I’m not writing this to pat myself or ourselves on the back (s) for having friends outside our race. It’s just nice that race hasn’t really been an issue in terms of making friends.
Of course, I realize that the area you live in plays a major role in developing friendships.
How about you? If you threw a party, who would make it on your guest list?Are your friends mostly from the same ethnic/cultural background?