I hate it when bloggers disappear. Sometimes I even worry a little about ‘missing’ bloggers. What if something happened to that him/her? So… I keep meaning to write a proper goodbye post.
According to my stats, people still find this space through old comments and links. Since people end up here, I just want to share this sad, tragic story of a poor abused boy named Scotty McMillan. People want to look away and not think about child abuse but it happens every day, often with terrible results. I don’t know about his family or if this story will fade away but it has changed me. I will forever support organizations that prevent child abuse and not just ignore it.
3-year old Scotty McMillan
Since I crossed off many items off my 2012 list, I figure I’ll do another one to keep myself accountable. Hopefully this time, it won’t take 2 years to check things off.
Donate that bag of clothes and other random stuff again. This is cyclical.
Recycle batteries and electronics. This is also cyclical.
Download film/TV I purchased to the iPad. If I can figure how to do this.
Look into life insurance.
Write a will. I suspect that I will have to get around to this one!
Frame some pictures. This would require actually getting prints.
Stretch out shoes that are way too small. Working on it…
Get copies of Advanced Directive to doctors and family. Not sure how to bring this up…
Learn how to tie a scarf.
Sell some clothes on Ebay.
Figure out how to clean filter from wall unit A/C. I think I need a screwdriver.
Hire someone to clean Dryer connector. This is a fire hazard!
Back in June 2012, I wrote down things I should do. Here’s an update.
Find a way to access a book I downloaded to my tablet. YES, I now borrow e-books from the library on a regular basis
Plant those tomatoes. NOPE
Donate that bag of clothes and other random stuff. YES, but still more stuff needs to go!
Finish those blog posts about work/life balance. DONE
Various Tech Stuff, like backing up pictures to the hard drive and setting up a wireless modem. YES, set up the damn wireless modem, or is it called router?
Go through all my magazine clippings and actually do something about it. Joined Pinterest instead
Now I have new things to add…
Look into life insurance. LOOKED into it but didn’t do anything about it.
Write a will. (I suspect that I will have to get around to this one!) Haha, NOPE
Create a Shutterfly album. YES, actually got one printed
Recycle batteries and electronics. YEP
Put away winter clothing and blankets. It’s that time of year again.
Get heel taps for new pumps. NOPE, now these pumps are no longer new.
Now I got to go..my to-do list is mile long.
A few months ago, I created a fun chart about possible frugal substitutes. The idea was that you can replace pricey wants like vacations and massages with cheaper options that fulfill the same need. Looking back, the intent was good but I’ve totally ignored my own advice for the past few weeks!
I went on a short trip. I bought a new computer. I got a massage. I went shopping. I bought some clothes and a new purse. AND I keep browsing online shopping sites. In short, I have been choosing expensive wants instead of examining the reason behind my sudden desire to buy, buy, buy. The only possible exception is eating out but my husband and I did some of that, too. It just hasn’t been a budget buster because we still eat home most days or tend to choose inexpensive places when we do go out.
I cannot justify my choices but I really needed a vacation!
I was going to write about my choice of college. That experience truly shaped the person I am today. I can attribute many later decisions to those 4 years. However, I could also imagine myself being happy if I had gone to my second choice college.
I was going to write about events that led me to meet my spouse. Yet, while I can’t imagine anyone making me happier, if I had found someone else, I would never have known and could have been happy, too. I didn’t even mention children but I’m glad I have them!
Then I thought about choices that led to my current job. Despite minor complaints, I’m pretty happy with work and I could easily pinpoint good choices that resulted in finding my position and field. However, my work isn’t a “true calling” in the sense that I can’t imagine doing anything else. Since I’ve had several good bosses and many great co-workers, it’s also easy to believe that I could have landed another job with another company and be just as content.
Then the answer hit me…
It was so obvious….
My best decision ever was moving closer to my work (and parents). With a shortened commute, I enjoy 2.5 extra hours with my family daily. I’m more relaxed when I come home and have energy to play in the park, take walks, chitchat about our days, and even exercise on occasion! In the mornings, I get up later but I now have time to eat breakfast and do light exercises (though it’s usually light stretching and trying to touch my toes!)
Since I don’t battle freeway traffic every morning, I’m more pleasant to be around at work, too.
And no matter where I work, who my spouse is, or where I went to college, I can safely say that a shorter commute is the BEST choice I ever made!
Topic choice courtesy of Ginger at Ramble Ramble.
I finally saw Sheryl Sandberg’s Ted Talk about “leaning in” at work. I’m not sure if she was promoting the book or if that talk gave her the impetus to write a book. Anyway, I didn’t think I was the target audience since it’s a bit late in my career to lean in, but her talk was very inspiring.
First of all, she was surprisingly funny. It’s not that I wouldn’t have enjoyed her talk if she was simply straight-forward but I just didn’t expect a laugh along the way.
Secondly, and most importantly, even if you’re not out to super-charge your career, I think she has valuable advice for all.
One thing I got out of that talk is the obstacles faced by female bosses. In general, people prefer to work under males. There’s an unfair perception that women are worse bosses. I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that you have to be tougher and more aggressive as a woman to climb to the top. Men have to be aggressive to climb up, too, but I do see a wider range of options for them and they can seem more relaxed at the top.
I have had my share of good/bad bosses. While I really enjoy working for my male bosses, my female boss was the only one who mentored and promoted me. I don’t think that’s too uncommon and that’s why I think more women at the top could eventually help all women.
On the same topic, I came across a Business week magazine article about a group of Dads at Deloitte who are trying to “lean out”. It was an interesting take on a new generation of men who want more time with their kids and family. It’s still not a widely-accepted notion but I do think and hope that the next generation will adopt more family-friendly and flexible policies that create a work/life balance for all.